Excerpted and edited from In Your Dreams
Matteo dreamt: "I was fishing off the coast of Sicily and had been out almost all day. I had caught a number of fish, but they were too small so I threw them back. Then I caught a big one! My friends below decks distracted me, asking if I wanted to come have a drink, and the fish got away."
I: What was the big fish in your dream like?
M: This fish was huge. It was the one I had been waiting for all day! There were lots of others, but they weren't big enough; they weren't right."
I: So, Matteo, is there anything in your life that is like fishing all day for a fish that is huge, the one you have been waiting for after having thrown back so many fish that weren't big enough?
M: That reminds me of my search for a wife! I've met a lot of women who are not quite enough for me. Yes, and recently I've been going out with a special woman and we are already in conflict. She is jealous because I go out at night with my friends about three times, maybe 4 times a week.
Maybe my dream is warning me to pay more attention to this relationship if she really is the one I want. I need to pay more attention to her than to my buddies I guess.
Did you notice?
The sample dream interview followed the basic Dream Interview Steps:
- Elicit a rich DESCRIPTION as if you were being interviewed from someone from another planet who makes few presumptions about your life or your thoughts and opinions.
- RECAPITULATE or Restate the description using only the dreamer's or your own words when you are playing both roles.
- Try BRIDGING the descriptions to waking experience by asking, "Is there anything in your life, or anyone, or some part of yourself THAT IS LIKE (the thing, person, action described)?